[dropcap]T[/dropcap]he belief that there is meaning behind every interaction in life makes us always kind and patient with its deep awareness. People we meet, books we read, and events around us, all effect on our mind and soul in a vast number of ways. Every person we meet, no matter how long stays in our lives, has something to develop and teach us.
Where books widen our mental horizons, events around us too give us a vast vision of life developing our understanding about it.
Events in daily routine of life are mostly considered meaningless or useless unless they become responsible for something different or big change.
But I think every interaction is meaningful having its impact on us. Humans have to make meaning of the things they do and the events around them. These are events or people which become responsible for any creation or change, in religion or somewhere else, sometimes helpful in developing strong faith in Almighty or sometimes unluckily leading to be astray. Moment when the world ceases to exist, with the catastrophic turning point, transforms an individual into a different person. Sometimes something catastrophic occurs that changes a person’s life forever. Other times one minor incident can lead to another and then another, gradually it helps in transformation with slow process. Suffering is very life changing but it is never welcomed or wished for. Sometimes it uncovers strength and potential inside making deep and awakening higher self. I remember my mother offering prayer with patience when her three sons were lying dead in front of. After great suffering one will not be as content as he was before but will have greater compassion, awareness and more will power and sometimes more deep and spiritual. Leaving the people and places we love, become a reminder of the impermanence of this world and permanence of the next. Here it will be right to say that some previous inclinations or can be said ‘inborn instincts’ may lead to person’s transformation after suffering. It takes time. Gradually with slow process, different events creating a connection help in transformation. The level of this transformation is different for everyone. Every trauma or lost mundane love is not transformed to spirituality or divine love but attitude and inclination develops mostly to a ‘deeper level of awareness.’
In some ways, it seems, suffering can deepen us. The German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche was certainly no stranger to suffering. He saw his suffering as ‘the ultimate emancipator of spirit’ which was essential for his philosophy. His experience was that when a person emerges from episodes of illness, isolation or humiliation, he is ‘as though born again, he has a new skin.’ Suffering may be inflicted for a higher good. A physician who re-breaks an arm in order for it to heal properly harms his patient in order to heal him. C.S. Lewis in his book A Grief Observed writes, “But suppose that what you are up against is a surgeon whose intentions are wholly good. The kinder and more conscientious he is, the more inexorably he will go on cutting. If he yielded to your entreaties, if he stopped before the operation was complete, all the pain up to that point would have been useless. … What do people mean when they say “I am not afraid of God because I know He is good”? Have they never even been to a dentist?” This doesn’t mean that we should welcome suffering, or purposely seek it out. But when it does appear in our lives, we should be aware that, beneath its negative surface, there is an opportunity for growth and deepening.
Happy moments and normal daily events too influence on our lives with great force. Simple things, common people and routine events all have their impact which is not felt mostly. Sometimes some common incidents become responsible for the creation of great things, discoveries and inventions either in writings or science; opening of a well fare trust or cancer hospital; or emerging great people with their great work in society. Molana Abul Aala Modudi was put to jail and he completed his wonderful collection of Tafheemul Quran. Faiz Ahmad Faiz, a revolutionary Urdu poet, wrote his poem, “aj bazaar mein pabjolan chalo” while going court from Lahore Jail on Feb 11, 1959 when public gathered to see him in the market. Another well known story writer, Baba Alam Siahposh, was once questioned how did he frame the lines of a sad hit song “ki kita taqdeeray” that made it unforgettable, Baba replied that it was created that night when his wife moved to the next eternal world leaving two kids behind; the pain of her departure created the sad verses. I think, incidents in life can’t be categorized as a blessing or punishment. God’s reasons can’t be assumed when he hasn’t made them plain. But the belief that the universe has our best interest in mind makes us patient and submissive to the Creator.