4 Reasons Good Manners Need To Make A Comeback



NEW YORK – Politeness doesn’t necessarily seem like a strength, but it holds more benefits than you might think, instilling good habits that go way beyond supper. Not convinced? Below are four reasons why we should all re-learn the art of kindness and good manners.

Good manners serve as the foundation of strong social skills.
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Good manners are more than just putting a napkin in your lap and not slurping your soup — they also serve as the basis of social connection. In fact, some experts theorize that manners were around in the caveman era; without them we wouldn’t be nearly as advanced as a species. “The rules of good manners are the traffic lights of human interaction,” Pier Forni, a professor at Johns Hopkins University and civility researcher, told the Washington Post in 2011. “They make it so that we don’t crash into one another in everyday behavior.”

The truth is, we’re better communicators when we’re polite. Actions like looking into someone’s eyes when they talk and being a good listener all fall under practicing good manners.

They’re an easy way to practice gratitude.
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Part of politeness is writing thank you notes when necessary (yes, even for that ugly sweater grandma made you). While the exercise may seem tedious, it’s also a good way to cultivate a little gratitude, because it implores you to recall the kindness someone extended to you. Studies show that consistently writing down what we’re grateful for — whether it’s in a journal or through the art of a well-crafted thank you note — can help you have a more optimistic outlook on life.

They could help us unplug.
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We may be living in a digital landscape that Emily Post never saw coming, but it’s still considered poor taste to text at the dinner table. And not only that, the presence of technology at the table could be hurting our relationships. Research shows that even the mere presence of a phone could have a negative impact on our social connections. By stashing your device, you’re being polite and you’re benefiting your bonds. Win-win.

Finally, good manners just make us feel, well, good.
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It may sound a little selfish, but if you have no other reason to practice good manners, do it at least for yourself. Research suggests that being kind to others makes us happier — and nothing shows kindness like being conscientious of those around you. A happy outlook in exchange for minding my manners? Don’t mind if I do.

About the author

Saher Afshan

Saher Afshan is a Pakistani Journalist and web producer of PakistanTribe.com. She has a good experience of working in Pakistan's mainstream print and broadcasting media. Saher writes on current, social and Islamabad's affair for both PakistanTribe English and Urdu.

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